tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001785584149111016.post9002720976001835252..comments2023-07-11T02:58:21.906-06:00Comments on Drop It Like It's Hot: IndecisionNanette N. http://www.blogger.com/profile/16624649291231202060noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001785584149111016.post-71081085874277164942011-11-10T12:27:35.090-07:002011-11-10T12:27:35.090-07:00I feel guilt when I'm concentrating on this go...I feel guilt when I'm concentrating on this goal so hard that I often find myself unaware of the other things I've let fall by the wayside (people, functions, etc). It's part of the adaptation. My socializing has cut down significantly because it always seems to be associated with food. So I'm putting myself in fewer of those situations.<br /><br />I also feel extreme guilt whenever I eat something that I haven't prepared. Or when I make a decision like putting cheese on my salad. It's not bad for me, but it's an association. Cheese = fat flakes. Meat = piles of saturated fat. I mean... these things aren't bad in moderation. Which is why I talk about it so much, to keep how much I've had in check. <br /><br />Then I feel guilty for only talking about nutrition contents, particularly around my fat friends. Because It used to annoy the SHIT out of me when people mid-weightloss would only talk about food they can't eat or what size pant they're wearing. So guilt for the new obsessive habit that takes up that space of good conversationalist. <br /><br />It's all in my head really. I know that. So I've got to come to terms with all that business.Nanette N. https://www.blogger.com/profile/16624649291231202060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001785584149111016.post-45747555952975124062011-11-04T22:25:10.069-06:002011-11-04T22:25:10.069-06:00That's interesting. I've become MORE fun. ...That's interesting. I've become MORE fun. Cause I'm not weighed down, I play more, dance more, look to do fun things more. I think the people who associate fun with pigging out or inactive stuff may find one less fun, but you find other people who do what you like to do now that isn't food-centric.<br /><br />I feel no guilt. I don't talk about guilt. Why guilt? I do get a lot of folks who ask "How did you do it? How are you eating?"...annd if they ask, I answer. But I always say, "But you find your own way. We don't all do it the same way. You ahve to find peace in how you do it and try to find a way that fits for life."<br /><br />I have found the journey really fun and self-revelatory. Not all days. Some days were crazy hard and frustrating. But guilt? Why? Where does that come from?<br /><br />If anything, I felt guilty when I wasn't trying. When I just ate whatever the hell I wanted and dozed like a tired cat a lot. Doing something about my health doesn't make me feel guilty..it makes me feel...stronger. :D<br /><br />And my hubby says he has his young bride back and while he was happy with me fat, I can tell he's just delirious that I look more and ACT more (ie mroe energy, more vim, more sex, more going on dates) like the gal he married 28 years ago. :D<br /><br />You can choose to be a bitch or choose to be a vibrant light feeling better about your choices. I know you won't be one of the nasty ones, right? :D You'll be one of the shining ones that inspires folks....<br /><br />I will add that it doesn't offend me at all if someone says they choose not to eat something when offered. It does bother me if they pick on themselves negatively. One is empowering. The other is self-destructive. We've all done it, but it's not good.Princess Dieter aka Mirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01121450857817115011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001785584149111016.post-53244753443878849582011-11-03T09:54:52.913-06:002011-11-03T09:54:52.913-06:00I love this post. It´s something that´s been on my...I love this post. It´s something that´s been on my mind a lot. I don´t like "thin" people who are like "oh, I can´t eat too much of this or that" or "oh, this has too many calories" or " look how fat I look". It drives me nuts. If you don´t want to eat it don´t. I feel like "those people" are looking for validation or they want us "fatties" to compliment them that they can eat it, because they are so thin. Not sure if you get my meaning, but I am trying very hard not to become one of "those". I want to stay happy and enjoy the food I CAN eat, and not complain about what I can´t have.<br />I like what Jillian said too.Betty Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02357132033070346815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001785584149111016.post-22498866920571081932011-11-02T07:03:17.471-06:002011-11-02T07:03:17.471-06:00You're right. Despite what -some- people in th...You're right. Despite what -some- people in the blogging community think, food DOES serve a social function. It's evolution that has been ingrained in us. We just have to learn how to operate in a healthy manner while expressing those functions. <br /><br />This is something I've been thinking about a lot lately as well. I AM cranky all the time (although, admittedly, I am usually a total bitch, so I don't think that would ever be a non-issue. But, I FEEL crankier). When I think about it logically, of COURSE I'm effing cranky! I am so used to the euphoric effects that eating crap food gives me that when I have to wean myself off, it's like going through withdrawal. We're addicts, Nannette, and your friends who love you are going to love you whether you succeed in recovery, or not. Your friends who you have built a relationship with upon food, they're going to be resistant. Just keep remembering, you're doing this for YOU. Not for anyone else. I don't think of it as changing, I think of it as rediscovering myself. You know, the person that I am when the high of the junk food wears off. Once I'm at goal, if I don't like that person, I can change her. I can't change her if we're dead.Jillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01535741923124551717noreply@blogger.com