I'm feeling better!
Yesterday I got out of the house and I'm a much happier person already! I made it out to get laundry done. I went to tea/coffee with a guy. I signed up for the gym and got my pass. I had an interview. I went to a concert. There was a lot of living to make up for.
Today I went into the gym to have my free session with a trainer. Let me just say... DEMOTIVATING. This super hot, fit, black guy saying, "your core is so weak." When I'm sweating there thinking, "you try this at my weight and say that it's easy, Mother F*****!" He looked at me like I was crazy when I told him I wanted to lose 145lbs in the next 1.5-2 years. He looked at me like I was even crazier when I told him I've been doing Tabata style body weight exercises and have lost 70 (ish) pounds already. And again, I was met with surprise when I told him I normally work out 5-6 days a week.
We did the fitness assessment and I've lost a little bit of what I can do over the past 4 weeks of no training. I was raining sweat, but I do that at the mere mention of exercise. And he's standing next to me saying, "Quit when you can't do it anymore." So I kept going. My version of can't do it anymore is muscle fatigue and an actual inability. I was slowing down on the stair step thingy. Before time was up he told me to just stop.
Boils down to this. No positive feed back. No vision expressed for where we could be going with this or what kind of things he's looking for. No explanation of what muscle groups are being used. Some form advice and a whole lot of joking around with the other trainers. Including racial and sexist jokes. No thank you, sir. I refuse to pay you for your time.
Game plan. I'm going to do what's been working so far. Some tabata and then additionally...
Friday: 30 min cardio. 30 min upper body weights (8-12 reps, 10 machines).
Saturday: Off - Busiest gym day.
Sunday: 30 min cardio. 30 min core.
Monday: 30 min upper body weights. 30 min cardio.
Tuesday: 30 min lower body weights. 30 min cardio.
Wednesday: 30 min cardio. 30 min core.
Thursday: 30 min cardio. 30 min lower body weights.
That trainer can suck it. I'll continue to find success and he won't be a part of it. That's for damn sure. My workouts are a positive experience and I don't need a freaking rain cloud around reminding me how fat or unfit I am, but rather one noticing that I'm willing to challenge myself and work harder than I ever have to reverse that. Sorry sir, aside from today, there's no room for you in my weight loss story.
Plus imagine how devastating that would have been for me if I went in there 70lbs ago and in a much more fragile state of mind. Gah! Getting mad all over again. Chill out, Nanette
Big Fat Trainer Shopping Love,
Nanette
Run as far away from that poor excuse for a trainer as fast as you can. Sounds to me like he doesn't want to "train" or "teach," he just wants to hang around a gym and get paid for it. You know you're doing great and a goal of 145 lbs lost in 18 months is MORE THAN ACHIEVABLE, particularly for someone with the knowledge and drive that YOU have. Keep having good days in your new city & keep looking until you find a trainer who gets you.
ReplyDeleteGirl, I'm with Norma...run! Think you'll give a different trainer a try? Either way, great game plan! ;)
ReplyDeleteI still wholeheartedly believe you will become a trainer one day. This experience will stay with you and all those people you end up working with will be so much better off because you will make it your mission to do the exact opposite of what that guy did.
ReplyDeleteIn NYC it shouldn't be difficult to find the right trainer. Just keep looking. You know what you want and need. Oh, and I'm so glad you're feeling better!
ReplyDeleteOh man, what a loser! He didn't even have the balls to be embarrassed when you surprised him with how fit you are! One day you can laugh in his face (real or imagined)
ReplyDeleteI meant to tell you on an earlier post how much it rocks that you've had multiple job interviews already! Do you know how many people come to NYC and are so intimidated that they can't get their ass out there? Or they sit and wait for jobs to come to them? Keep showing us this moxie that you have so much of!! You're showing all of us that it doesn't matter what size you are - there's no excuse to not get yer ass in motion and go for your dreams!
Wow, you've been busy. Glad you're feeling better!!
ReplyDeleteDon't let that trainer get you down girl. The world is full of jerks like that. But somewhere out there is a trainer who actually wants to help. You'll find that : )
His style and your needs don't sound compatible so definitely look for someone who fits YOUR needs.
ReplyDeleteYou are doing amazingly!
I agree with the comments above: there are plenty of good trainers. Surely there will be someone you can find that BOOSTS your desire to exercise and get fit. Just looked at your photos: you are transforming yourself!
ReplyDeleteYou already know how to lose weight and work hard at the gym... Don't let the sorry excuse for a trainer get to you. Just take your time, I'm sure you'll find someone awesome who actually wants to make a contribution to your journey. Glad to hear you're feeling better!
ReplyDeleteNot only should you find another trainer, you should tell the gym that hired him what a piss poor job he did. He cost them a client. They should know he was a loser. Additionally, if you do it right, complain in a polite way, the gym should offer you another free session with a different trainer, to make up for your bad experience with this tool. I don't normally do things like that, but I think you are totally entitled.
ReplyDeleteI agree with everyone Nanette. Get your butt back into that gym and say something. A trainer is suppose to encourage you, not discourage you. That was so very wrong and he is not in the right place to be helping anyone. If I was there I'd take you by the hand and get you back there and help you speak your mind.
ReplyDeleteYou are doing so awesome, you keep it up. You go girl.
Take care and have a blessed day!
Ditto to what everyone else said about the trainer. Except I would add go back and accidentally drop a 20 pound weight on his foot. Oops.
ReplyDeleteAny news or feedback from the interviews??
I'm so sorry you had to go through that experience! You should tell the gym about him. Seriously. Not being encouraging/motivating is the worst quality a trainer should have -- I've seen a number of trainers who would rather work with those who are already at goal, when really they should be encouraging to those who are trying hard to lose weight/get fit.
ReplyDeleteYou've been doing an amazing job. I have no doubt that you can do just fine without that guy, and won't his jaw drop when he sees your results!!
*hugs*
PS Your day in NYC sounds amazing :) When I come to the States I'm hangin' out with you! :)
Seriously, what a dick! Luckily for you, you have a great base to work from after training with your friend for so long during the school year. You got this, girl!
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